So you’ve said "Yes!", now comes the next big question that doesn’t have just one answer: How long should you be engaged before tying the knot?
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At Amazing Graze Events, we’ve seen couples with timelines as short as three months and as long as three years. The truth is, there’s no perfect number, it’s really about what works best for you.
So, how do you decide what works for you? Here are a few things to consider as you figure out on the length of your engagement:
1. Your Vision for the Wedding
Do you dream of a grand affair with lots of guests and intricate details? Or are you leaning toward an intimate elopement or micro-wedding?
Larger weddings often require 12–18 months to plan, especially if you want your pick of specific vendors during peak seasons.
Smaller celebrations can often be pulled together in a shorter amount of time.
2. Budget & Financial Planning
An extended engagement can give you more time to save for your desired wedding without financial stress. In the same breath, longer engagements can also mean more time to add “just one more thing” to the budget.
3. Stress Levels & Decision Fatigue
Some couples thrive on long-term planning. Others get overwhelmed if the to-do list drags on too long.
Ask yourselves:
Do we want a shorter, focused season of planning?
Or would we prefer to take things slowly and space out the decision-making?
4. Life & Logistics
Maybe you’re finishing grad school, relocating, or expecting other large life changes. Your engagement timeline should align with your life; don’t feel the need to rush or delay based on what others expect.
Our Advice? Make It Meaningful
No matter the length of your engagement, the time you spend preparing for your marriage is truly what matters most. Choose a timeline that allows you to plan intentionally, enjoy the process, and celebrate with joy.